1 post tagged “close-minded relatives”

Wouldn't be nice that if in 5 or 10 or 20 or however many years from today, this article about a couple of 55 years getting married doesn't make the national headlines?

Now, I don't want a whole bunch of hate mail from family and friends about my support of "same-sex unions", but I can only think of a future-world where people are not so close-minded as to prohibit and protest a couple getting married just because they happen to be of the same gender. Seriously, I have family members who have said some horrifically derogatory things about gays and lesbians AND, being heterosexual myself, I feel it is important for those of us with an open mind to stand up and celebrate this particular day as a moment of historical change; an equation-changing day. I say,"Why the hell not?" Free love and free speech and all of that aside, I know that the country's collective perspective on this topic is changing. I see it in the headlines. I see it in public. I see it in the eyes of colleagues and friends who have had to live in the shadows for decades b/c of their sexuality AND their locales.

HEY, United States, wake up! 1 in 10 people around you are either gay, lesbian, or bisexual (and, no, Mae, "Bi" does not mean hermaphrodite). It's time to face the facts that, as Dave Gahan (or maybe it was Martin Gore) once wrote, "people are people". That has, is, and always will be my attitude toward this subject (among others [such as race] of contention at family get-to-gathers).

Without putting a label or an expectation on him at such an early age, if Baldo should be gay and wants to have a "same sex union"--even the term is a bit demeaning, isn't it (why not marriage)?--then I would totally support him and I know that Bmom would as well b/c he's our son and we love him and want only the best for him. Maybe in 5,10,20,25 years, we'll all look back at that couple and they won't be soooo important. But, in a way, as I write this, I guess I'm contributing to their importance. Does anybody know/ remember the name of the first couple married in Massachusetts?

I started off with the intention of making this post, not trivial per se, but just imagining a time when this issue is not front-page material and I've come to realize that it should be. It is an important moment. It is an important day.

Congrats, Phyllis and Del. I know Old Cousin Foster would be right behind you in line had he survived to see today.

Are you out there Foster??? If so, know that I was always proud of you, even if I didn't understand all of the hate that was directed at you OR even the reason for the hate.

I hope everybody can now just live their lives without treating each other "so awfully".

Aloha,
JIm